We’ve rounded up the five worst communication mistakes you’re making with your SO and how to fix them.While the coolest Crayolas in the box might not be at stake, your relationship is, and we’d call that pretty important. Did you stick to the topic that started the disagreement, or did you start bringing up each and every complaint that’s ever passed through your mind since the dawn of time — err, the beginning of your relationship?The most common dating mistakes often spring from underlying issues of self-esteem (think too little of yourself, and you'll settle for less-than-ideal situations - think too much of yourself, and you believe bad behavior is absolved by your sheer fabulousness).More often, dating doozies result from failure to recognize - or simply accept - the different ways men and women approach relationships.The first four stages of each cycle are regarded as quiet sleep or non-rapid eye move-ment (NREM).The final stage is denoted by rapid eye movement (REM).Then there's the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe - the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to "make things happen," instead of letting them unfold. It's uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I've outlined below).Moreover, correcting the errors of your ways can be done with a bit of practice.
Oh, no I have a paper due tomorrow – can we hang out tomorrow night instead?
“Any time someone’s bringing up the past, he or she is indicating resentment and unresolved issues,” says Patrick Wanis, a human behavior and relationship expert.
If it’s pretty clear that you’re bringing up past arguments just to deflect blame, you’ll have to take a different approach.
"We all make mistakes." Nowhere is the cliché more apt than when it comes to relationships.
As a dating coach I've been privileged to help other women recognize and break free of self-defeating patterns and habits that have kept them from realizing the relationship of their dreams.